Lindsay I AM

I don't like to be questioned.  I especially don't like to have my motives questioned, at least not by people who love me.  Being questioned by those who are closest to me ignites a reaction that is less than ideal.  I often find myself feeling offended, hurt, and unloved.

So, when I saw this quote, it resonated with me:

If someone truly loves me...

If they really know me...

then they'll automatically trust my motives, correct?  There will be no room for questions or doubts.  They will always protect, always trust, always hope...right?

Perhaps.

But there's something bigger at play here.

When someone who cares about me takes the time to question me, there are two possible motives behind that action: either they love me and want to help me or they don't love me and want to hurt me.  At this point, it's up to me to choose what I will believe.

It's my turn to be loving...to always protect...to always trust.

If I expect the people who love me to trust my motives, then I must expect myself to trust their motives, as well.

So, instead of bristling at their questions...

Instead of taking offense...

Instead of feeling hurt and rejected...

I can choose to believe that they're questioning me out of love and a desire to see me grow into the person I want to be.  I can do my best to trust their love for me.

That's easier said than done, I've made plenty of mistakes in this area.  

From this point forward, however, I'm choosing to try my best not to doubt others' love for me.

After all, where there is love there is no question.

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Does this resonate with you?  Is it hard for you to trust that others love you as much as they say they love you?  Do you struggle to believe the best about other peoples' motives?  If so, how do you think we can begin to grow in this area?  If not, how do you think you can help the people around you know, beyond a doubt, how much you love them?